grow it long, grow it strong!


2021 edit: i no longer subscribe to or support the “all-natural” label. more here.

i’m obsessed with long hair. if i think about cutting mine, my soul gets a little sad. if see a girl with long, luscious locks, i get Serious hair envy. creepy? sure, i guess… but who can’t resist long, beautiful hair?!

here’s my take on getting those long, strong locks you’ve always wanted 🙂 i grew mine from shoulder/collarbone length (what’s the correct term for that length anyway?) to below the middle of my back in about a year and i never want to cut it!

do not

  • wash your hair every day. this is a biggie! you’re stripping your hair of its moisturizing oils.
  • brush your hair while wet. this is so so so bad for it! it strains it and can lead to breakage. please stop!
  • use a blowdryer. i know it’s a hard habit to break, but you’re killing your hair with the heat.
  • use hair dye. permanent, demi, etc.. you’re doing irreversible damage.
  • use a straightener or curling iron every day. or most days. only use them on occasion, and protect your hair when you do! try using a natural heat protectant.
  • dry your hair with a towel.
  • neglect getting your hair cut. you don’t need to trim it every month or “x” weeks, but you do need to trim when you have split ends. they WILL continue to split and your hair will not be pretty nor will it be long and strong.
  • pull your hair back into a tight ponytail or bun every day. this will cause breakage over time.
  • *if you can, drop traditional shampoo, conditioner, and styling products all together. your hair doesn’t need to be coated in chemicals to be pretty!! i’m this way with my hair and i don’t even need conditioner or styling products anymore. you’d be surprised at what your hair can do/looks like when there aren’t chemicals clinging to it! check out all my natural hair posts Here

coco hair


  • let your hair air dry.
  • wash your hair somewhere between every other day to every 4 days. but please still shower. i’m now water-only and rinse my hair once a week!
  • take biotin (and fish oil) supplements. it’ll strengthen your hair and nails. not to mention help with adding moisture and shine!
  • use coconut oil hair masks at least every other week. i can’t express to you how wonderful these natural masks are for your hair! check it out here. and i’ll just lay a fun fact on you. i’m convinced my hair grows faster with coconut oil. maybe i’m just psyching myself out. but man, my armpit hair sure does (since i’ve switched to homemade deo)!
  • tame fly-aways and nourish your dry ends with argan oil. that stuff is liquid gold! you can use coconut oil, too! just be careful with the amount you use. it takes very, very little to get the job done! check it out here.
  • use a wide-toothed comb instead of a bristle brush. it’ll catch and pull your hair less and lead to way less breakage and damage. here’s the proper way to brush your hair!
  • massage your scalp about 5 minutes a day to promote growth. (ohh, hubby??)
  • abandon store-bought shampoo, conditioner, and hair styling products. this is an extreme step, but please at least give it a try. you can check out how i dropped all chemicals here and here. and here’s a natural shampoo that’s great for ALL hair types!
  • drink plenty of water, eat healthy, and exercise. you gotta keep your hair healthy from the inside out! i fully support a plant-based diet!

20130413_115834(biotin & fish oil. look at those horse pills! they’re worth it though!)

ways to “get around” the do NOTs:

  • if your hair is oily and you feel like you have to wash it every day, there is hope! it’s about a week to two week process but you can train your hair to produce less oil. (i talk about it here & here. )i’ve completely dropped store-bought shampoo and conditioner and have switched to using either an all-organic shampoo (that i still heavily dilute), or baking soda/vinegar routine (check out my posts under the “hair” tab). i’ve been doing it this way for over 8 months and i can honestly, cross my heart, tell you that i will never go back to putting chemicals on my hair ever again!
  • if you need to blow dry your hair, only do it half way and protect it with some sort of heat protectant.
  • instead of using a towel to dry your hair, invest in a turbie twist or just lightly squeeze out excess water from root to tip, and let drip dry. you can also put your hair up in a pair of (clean) boxers to lessen the roughage if you can’t get a turbie twist and also don’t want your hair dripping all over you
  • if you need to pull your hair back, try using bobby pins or a big clip that will hold it back, but with less damage potential. maybe even a loose braid will do!
  • if you need to curl your hair, look up heatless ways to do so. i have a couple on this blog, with my favorite here. check out my how-to video on youtube.
  • if you need to straighten your hair, you’re either going to have to save it for those few and far between days or just suck it up and do without. lol
  • if you need to dye your hair, try natural alternatives… tea, black walnut hulls.. do your research! your hair will thank you in non-breakage and non-dryness. check out my post on dying with black walnuts.


overall: if you’re growing your hair out longer and stronger after being curled, dyed, straightened, teased, etc., every day or close to it, these techniques will help your hair, but your hair will have to grow out to get rid of the existing damage. there’s just no way around that. i wish there was! the amount of time your hair takes to grow depends on a lot of things, so BE PATIENT! i know it’s hard! my family’s hair grows like crazy, so i got lucky in the genetics department. but it also depends on what you’re putting into your body, how you’re treating your hair, and past damage. remember that your hair’s part of a living thing…YOU. treat it as such 🙂

myhair(and here’s how long my hair’s gotten so far! i got it cut into choppy layers, too!)

i get asked this a LOT, so here’s the deal: UNREFINED vs REFINED COCONUT OIL:

refined CO has been through bleaching & high heat processes and also can sometimes have lye added to it or be hydrogenated, making it a trans fat. while it might make your hair feel softer, you’re not actually giving your hair anywhere the same benefits you would from unrefined. & you definitely do NOT want to eat that one! unrefined is the purest form with the most health benefits (and the kind that can be eaten!). your hair will thank you 🙂

hippie stamp Sig


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564 thoughts on “grow it long, grow it strong!”

  1. My hair was knee length for 10 years (7-17) until I cut it two years ago to almost shoulder length (now its only hip length). During those 10 years I didn’t get it trimmed once, and when I finally did cut it, the lady was so suprised that I didn’t really have any split ends. For those ten years, the only things I used on my hair were shampoo and conditioner, and I never used any heat on my hair.

    But, if I don’t brush my hair when wet, it won’t get brushed because if I try to brush my hair when dry it grows to two feet in diameter.

  2. Does black tea actually cover greys though? I went about half grey in my early twenties. I am now in my late twenties and have a very young looking face, no wrinkles, etc. But my grey hair really washes me out. It has a terrible texture to it, too. It’s very dry and wiry. I eventually gave in and started dying it. Alth my hair is MUCH less healthy, I don’t think I could go back to the grey yet… maybe when I am thirty.

    I just don’t know how to actually cover greys and still have healthy hair. Every semi-permanent dye didn’t cover them before so I wonder if natural dye could even do anything for me.

    1. Silver Hair is “to dye for” (pun intended) these days…. Just go for it! Chicks will be jelly you don’t have to fake it til you make it… You already got it made! 🤗

  3. I’m so glad you posted this guide! I knew most of this already, but it’s nice for a refresher.

    I started bs/acv no poo this past Sunday and I have mixed feelings to the way it makes my hair feel. I can easily go 4 days between washes (that’s about how often I washed my hair with shampoo and conditioner, thankfully) so I don’t expect a really greasy transition, but I made the horrible mistake of bleaching my hair a few months ago and dyeing it bright red and then purple. So my ends are dry and ragged, but I dread chopping off like 2 inches of my hair 😭 I just dyed my hair with some lavender earl gray tea I bought and never drank, and I think this is going to be the method in which I continue to dye it.

    Thank you so much for the tips! I’m so glad I found your blog. I can’t wait until the day I can wash water only (shh, don’t tell my husband, he thinks the bs/acv is gross)

  4. Hi,

    Yes it is true that you should not brush or comb your hair wet as it will break your hair strands and you should also avoid using blow dryers for your hair as it will damage your hair. It is better to air dry your hair and once it is dry you can remove the knots with the help of a wide tooth comb or fingers.

  5. I didn’t know that you shouldn’t brush your hair when it is wet. I always brush my hair a lot when I get out of the shower. Maybe I should start waiting until it’s dry to brush it from now on.

  6. This is one of the best Grow your hair long guides I’ve seen! I myself have been on this journey for awhile doing many of these things listed above. I however did learn some things too! Thanks for the great blog 🙂

  7. Great tips – there’s a lot to be said for natural oils in keeping hair strong and healthy. I never knew about using walnuts as a dye, definitely going to look into that too!

  8. I have hair down to the middle of my back and have cut down to washing every other day. I use the Somaluxe Exotic Conditioner from just below my neckline and down through the ends. It rinses out nicely and I can comb through my hair nicely (I use a wide tooth comb and the “wetbrush”). I love that it has argan oil already in it, so I dont have to spend so much money buying an extra argan oil!

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